知性主持人方芳芳，於事業如日中天之際遠嫁上海；王菁菁則歛起演員夢，成了宏泰集團長媳一肩扛起家務，兩人從備受家庭呵護的女孩，成為無私付出的母親一路關照彼此。在各自的精華歲月裡沉澱智慧，淘洗出溫潤澄淨的心靈，終能踏入第二人生，她們懷抱感恩傾力「台灣優質生命協會」回饋社會。午後暖陽灑落，《enya FASHION QUEEN》和姐妹倆一同分享以愛佐料的人生真味。
Intellectual host Fang Fang-fang was married to Shanghai when her career was on the crest of a wave, whereas Wang Jing-jing gave up her dream of being an actress, and became the eldest daughter-in-law of the Hungtai Group, who shoulders the responsibility of houseworks. The two ladies who grew under the care of their families have become selfless mothers, and have been attending to each other along the way. During their best years, the two have accumulated wisdom, and shaped into warm and pure mind, before entering their second life, where they became members of the Taiwan U-Life Association and give back to the society. Under the warm and vibrant sun in the afternoon, <enya FASHION QUEEN> joins the two ladies on a journey to explore a love-filled life.
How did you come into contact with the Taiwan U-Life Association?
Fang Fang-fang (hereinafter abbreviated as Fang): I entered the entertainment industry when I graduated from senior high school, and I wasn’t familiar with other industries since I made my debut early. I was lucky that the audiences took fancy in me for a period of time, though I often look back and realize that a lot of people only look at the outside of the celebrities and the luxurious side of them, without knowing that a lot of senior celebrities underFangt numerous challenges and hardships before their success now.
Now I am eager to give back to this circle. Having participated in the Taiwan U-Life Association for years, I was invited by Ba Ge to assume the president position for 2020, and I accepted the offer without much consideration on how heavy that title represents, though I told myself to just give my best. I am very grateful for Ba Ge and Ji Bao-ru, and I am very touched by their selfless devotion and genuine affection towards vulnerable groups.
From helping out at the gala in the past to becoming the president this year, I understand very well that the strength of one single person is simply not enough. Jing Jing is a positive lady, and its always a great time hanging out with her, for instance when we play golf together, she would always scream “good shot” as long as the ball flies forward. So I decided to ask Jing Jing if she is willing to help, and without a doubt, she said yes instantly.
Wang Jing-jing (hereinafter abbreviated as Jing): Like Fang Fang said, we have gone through a lot of things along our journey, and we feel that it is necessary to give back to the society from our relatively abundance experience, so I am grateful that Fang Fang thought of me. Despite my shorter period in the entertainment industry, I know that a lot of people only notice the flamboyant appearances of many celebrities, where the arduous processes behind these flashy outer shells are often omitted, and some of these celebrities are even unable to save up when they are old. Hence, I hope to do my part, and exert the influential power of both Fang Fang and I. I am thankful for being able to participate in this event, and I wish that doing so can prompt people to start doing good deeds.
What touched you the most during the process?
Fang: What I remember the most was the time when we visited a grandpa, who prepared pancakes and congee so early in the day to welcome us. When we walked into his tin house, it was like we traveled back to our childhood at the military dependents’village, and grandpa was very welcoming. I happened to stay in Shanghai for more than 10 years, so grandpa finally opened up and began speaking to me with his rich Shanghainese accent, which prevented him from speaking up for a long time.
Grandpa was having difficulty in applying force due to the swelling in his hands caused by dialysis, and that he happened to run out of baking powder on that day, so the pancake had a different texture, but I couldn’t help but started crying. Life is like a mirror, and i saw love and passion on grandpa’s face. I hope to spread the love and happiness within my heart, because only “love” will make this world a more beautiful place, and only “selfless” can expand this world.
Do you have a better understanding in love as you grow older or experience changes in identity?
Jing: I actually disliked children before, and the feeling completed changed after I gave birth to my son. I used to close my bedroom door whenever I sleep in the past because I am scared of ghosts, and I realized that my son does the same thing when he sleeps, that is when I would say to him”ghosts only haunt bad people”. I can no longer be scared, since I am now a mother who has to protect him. Having gone through things like these made me understand even more that love is a form of power, and that the ability to love selflessly is a blessing.
When have you particularly felt the existence of love during life?
Fang: I appreciated my mother even more after I became a mother myself. As my manager, she would always accompany to the shooting scene, and forbid me from going to disco or wearing revealing clothes. I knew later on that my mother did all that because she cares about me, and the love that she gave me was just profound, though I didn’t stay in Taiwan for too long afterwards.
We always take our parents’ love for granted and believe that it is something that we can always have, and it is only when they are no longer with us, we would finally understand that it is a heart stabbing pain, though it has allowed me to understand that the love from my families and friends is so precious, and I thank God for all these beautiful things.
Jing: Us women are emotional beings. After knowing about mother’s diagnosis of lung adenocarcinoma, I came back from Singapore immediately, which I am grateful for myself in making this decision, since I was there for her during the entire journey. After my mother, my father-in-law was diagnosed with the same disease, and my mother-in-law was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, which frankly is quite exhausting to the mind, but we have emitted our substantial amount of love to our families whilst accompanying them.
Numerous women of similar age have lost their real selves by devoting to their families for half of their lives. How do women maintain the passion in life?
Jing: I am currently learning tea ceremony and floriculture, where I often obtain serenity during the process, since it is necessary to return to tranquility and steadiness when you reach to a certain age, even if you have gone through larger emotional fluctuations when you were young. Furthermore, my husband has diabetes, so apart from following a clean diet, I also play golf with him, where it’s easier to get freckles from prolonged period under the sun, which he knows as well. The time that we spend together at the gold course has elevated our relationship, which has affected how our children perceive our marriage, thus leading to a stronger family cohesiveness.
Fang: I think that continuous learning is very important. In addition to attempting Chinese painting in the past, I have touched upon Western drawings, where I can emerge myself within arts. I participated in the Chinese and Western drawing sessions taught by Jiang Xun in Shanghai before, and I would listen to audiobooks at home, where the voice of Jiang Xun had helped me sleep even.
My husband always asks me where to go, and I would encourage him to try new things, which is why he has started playing violin once again after 16 years, who even asked a piano teach for accompaniment, though he isn’t the best at playing violin. However, the various roles in life are all part of me, and I always tell myself to be true to myself by exerting every last drop of energy.
Can you encourage women of the same age to be brave in planning for the second of their lives through your own life experience?
Fang: Love yourself, and don’t stop yourself from buying clothes and accessories for your children and families. Children will plan for their lives when they grow up, and you will be able to exert the best self after accumulating your own experience, in addition to making yourself pretty.
Jing: Your body will start to experience changes after passing the age of 50, where you are no longer able to shoulder all family affairs like you did when you were 2-30 years old. Time flies when you don’t notice it, and my father would be the best example, who passed away at the age of 59.
So I encourage women in this age group to love themselves, to learn in the fields that you once wanted to, go for a massage when you are feeling fatigue, and don’t be reluctant in buying new clothes for yourself, as well as go out and enjoy afternoon tea with your buddies, since female mediation is also essential.
This is why some people have said that good friends are the primary factor behind women’s longevity, who are able to exchange things in life with, whilst increasing energy to face upcoming challenges, which is the biggest happiness for women to have these good friends.
Can you talk about how one must consider others in your own place for love?
Jing: I am a Christian, and the doctrine talks about “selfless”, which is why I deeply feel that love can only be felt when you are devoting for others. I want to share some of the quotes from my idol Audrey Hepburn, who once said, “treat everyone with sincerity, as honesty is the most heartfelt quality”, “treat this world with benevolence”, and “do not irritate, resent, rage, and reveal bad looks for small things”.
Fang: I don’t necessarily think about how one must “consider others in your own place for love”, I just simply transmit the love within me. If love is a beam of light, I am willing for this beam of light to bloom.
What images of the Taiwanese society does the association want to depict?
Fang: The association helps with elders who live alone, senior celebrities, and children with mental retardation. We are obviously unable to attend all corners of Taiwan yet, though we hope to transform Taiwan into a place full of love through everyone’s continuous cultivation and efforts.
Jing: I hope that it’s more than financial help, since I wish that our actions will inspire others to help more people in any way possible.
What should the best posture in life look like? Although the day of shooting was abrupt, it was beautiful as we were enveloped by the elegance of Fang Fang-fang and Wang Jing-jing, while we appreciated the radiant and glistening smiles of these two gorgeous ladies. In addition to the condensation of age, they have laid down their stubbornness out of courage, which has infused elasticity in their lives. Whether it is retrieving lost passion, or exploring in unknown fields, the overflowing energy is adequately enough to influence others, where love will always appear as ripples and diffuse outward alongside devotion whilst ferment within. The most beautiful posture is obtained through implementation, which resembles how the two fine women dedicate themselves to the Taiwan U-Life Association, and gradually incorporate a remarkable look to the Taiwanese society through different methods.