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任家萱 Selina | 任真如初 Stay True to Yourself

從歌手轉變成品牌負責人她成長了太多太多,任家萱是一個幸福感很高的 人,她喜歡現在的自己,即將邁入不惑之年,過去那些歲月的磨礪,彷彿沒有在她身上留下任何痕跡,舉手投足間依然保持著少女的純粹與隨性。

TRANSLATION | Eugenia Yang

From being a singer to becoming a brand manager, Selina Ren has grown so much and is now extremely happy with who she has become throughout these years. About to enter the age of forty, it is as if time’s tempering never left a mark. Everything about Selina—her smile, her vernacular, her etiquette—still radiates with the youthfulness and carefree nature of a little girl.

打破定義 勇闖副業

「人生是一門生活大學,我遲遲不想畢業,想嘗試更多可能。」

於疫情之際,停不下來的任家萱,有了創立副業的構思,跨入食尚界,成為任真闆娘,考慮到拌麵市場已經飽和,而東方華人世界主要又以小米為主食,她把視角鎖定於「粥」作為主打產品,「任性 eat 下」品牌就這樣誕生,堅持選用簡單純粹的食物,推出 2 款素食風味粥品,包含香菇芋頭與麻油薑泥粥可以快速沖泡,天冷來一碗 暖心又暖胃,上市限量萬盒在官網一開賣就秒殺完售,她透露目前下一季新口味已在籌備。

平時的她也很喜歡吃控肉、滷肉飯重鹹食品,然而高鈉含量會造成女明星水腫,創立「任性 eat 下」品牌之後,經常於家中做菜,在營養師身上學習到不加醬油、鹽依然好吃的控肉食譜,從對話中你會發現,她是真真正正的在享受這樣的過程。

走出界線 追逐真我

「不是批評以前的自己,但以前的確比較做作,現在只想做自己。」

走到今天,談起 SHE 真情姊妹誼, 她停頓了幾秒,似乎無法用幾句言語,敘述這二十載共同經歷的所有,太多道不完的故事,組成一系列的生活碎片。講起感觸最深,是從旅行發現彼此是最好的旅伴,而時間也教會了她很多東西,曾經「團體」的時光帶給她相當大的空間與力量,學習摸索演藝工作平衡和如何與媒體打交道,轉變成「單獨作戰」後,脫離 SHE 姐妹淘的舒適圈,因各種技能已然掌握,便不再恐懼進而享受工作當下。

「是我的,別人也拿不走。」

這幾年的她沿著心之所向不斷出發,不斷找尋,不斷和嶄新的自己相逢,正像是拍攝現場不言語卻件件心中自主張,在「成為一個什麼樣的人」這件事上,表面軟萌甜的任家萱心裡主意大得很。

眼裡有光 心中有愛

「她是我很好的守護者。」

說起妹妹任容萱,她分享一段對話,有一次玩遊戲時妹妹送了魏如萱的單 曲《買你》給她,當旋律響起,「可不可以買你的不快樂,只是想陪你吃飯,看你笑笑,聽你最近好不好。」所有積累的情緒,在那一刻眼淚終於潰堤,或許在親情面前,任家萱願意卸下所有的偽裝與疲憊。

前不久與妹妹一同驚喜送上「養老豪宅」給任爸任媽,談及最厲害之處是如何在裝潢一整年不被 察覺,她笑說根本是一場鬥智鬥勇的過程。講起陳年往事,一家四口幾杯黃湯下肚,她甚至會像個小 女孩般撒嬌著與任爸任媽對質說:「小時候怎麼這樣對我?」

回溯這些彼此過往的回憶,也將親子的關係越靠緊密。或許很多人會疑問難道家庭關係從不產生衝突,任家萱淡淡地講起,曾經也因為愛, 讓親子關係產生了碰撞與不理解,然而往往衝突的根本來自於關心,生活就是這樣,要怎麼與之和解, 成為了近幾年的主要命題,如今的她正學習通過柔軟與理性的方式和父母溝通。

隨著閱歷增長,她逐漸理解真正的孝順,並非要帶父母去到多遠的地方, 或許他們希望的僅僅是簡單的陪伴與問候。眼光投射到自己,她很感謝父母從小給予的愛與善良,讓她一直堅定地做一個有力量與溫暖的人。

時光旅行者

這些年,任家萱從未給自己設限,趁著疫情「慢生 活」的步調中,她有時間探索各種事物的可能,滿足學習的欲望,在朋友鼓勵之下接觸露營,直言如同萬丈高樓平地起,所有一切都要自己打理,建立帳篷、煮飯烹飪,化繁就簡擁抱自然的舒展,享受原始與純樸的美好,一種另類的生活體驗。

而身為 「裝備族」的她,很注重生活儀式感與對運動的尊重,認為買好的裝備可以保護自己,減損探索運動時可能帶來的傷害,更透露近期想嘗試學習網球。 談起穿衣風格從不拘束,一切以舒服為主,於她而言,每日穿搭記錄著當天的心情與生活狀態,喜歡逛購物網站,從模特形象照片的搭配中了解是否適合自己的身形,她更俏皮地分享當不確定尺寸時, 所幸多買兩個尺碼,買大給妹妹容萱,買小給媽媽 ,完全不擔心尺寸錯誤的困擾。

寵愛自己 高光時刻

訪談到了尾聲,聊起了女性如何獲得幸福力,任家萱強調「大膽做、勇敢愛」,偶而放下世俗的眼光,學習寵愛自己,是幸福的原動力。

試問生活中大多數時候的我們又何嘗不是被囚禁者? 她提醒著不要忘記思考,辦法是人想出來的,學習自我療癒與寵愛的能力。人生很容易乏味,從書中讀懂有趣的靈魂,她笑著說或許有哪一天她也可以將生命精彩的旅程,譜成一本書。

對於未來 ,她希望能一直不停的忙著,現在是最好的時代 ,世界偌大她想讓自己不停的提升,在生活與事業之中邁下新的一里路。

Breaking the Norm

“Life is like a university that I’m not ready to graduate from yet. There are still so many things I want to try.” Even in the wake of the pandemic, Selina couldn’t slow down her life and decided to start a side hustle by stepping into the culinary industry. Considering that the dry noodle industry has reached market saturation and how the Eastern cuisine sees rice as the main course, she placed her focus on making porridge as her brand’s main product. This is how “Rensingeatshot” was born. Insisted on using the simple and pure ingredients only, the label launched two kinds of instant vegetarian porridge—mushroom taro and sesame oil ginger—the perfect choice on a cold day to warm the heart and satisfy the stomach. Launched as a limited edition of only 10,000 boxes, the instant porridge was immediately sold out after launching. Selina told us she is now already prepping for the new flavors of the next season. A lover of braised meat and food with heavy seasoning, she knows that such high sodium leveled food can cause edema, aka any female celebrity’s worst nightmare. This is why after the launch of “Rensingeatshot,” Selina learned from the nutritionist and found a way of making braised meat with no soy sauce and salt at home. From the way her eyes shined with excitement as she shared the recipe, it wasn’t hard to tell how much she enjoyed the process.

Finding Your True Self

“Not trying to criticize the old me, but I used to be a lot more reserved. Now I just want to be myself.” Speaking of the genuine sisterhood of SHE, Selina paused for a few seconds, seemingly unable to use just a few sentences to describe what they’ve been through over the past twenty years. The unspoken stories became a collection of life fragments. When I asked about the most touching part, she told me it was traveling that made her realize they were her best company and that time taught her a lot of things. The time of being in a girl group gave Selina considerable space and strength, while she explored the balance between work and life and how to interact with the media. Now working solo, she is no longer in the comfort zone of being in SHE. Yet, she has already acquired all the needed skills and is not afraid of just enjoying the moment. “What is mine will be mine. No one will be able to take it away from me.” In the past few years, Selina followed what her heart said and is constantly searching for her new self. Like at our cover shoot, she was being self-assertive without having to speak a word. On the lesson of “what kind of person should we become,” perhaps as someone who is known to be kind and sweet, Selina had already found her answer.

There will Always be Love in thy Heart

“She is like my guardian angel.” Speaking of her younger sister Lorene, Selina recounted a time when they were playing a game and Lorene gifted her Waa Wei’s single “Buy You.” The lyric sings like this, “Can I buy all of your unhappiness, I just want to sit down with you for a meal and see you laugh, and hear about your days.” All the cumulated emotions imploded in that moment. Perhaps only in front of her family is when Selina can let go of her disguises and exhaustion. Not long ago, the Ren sisters surprised their parents with a luxury mansion for retirement. When asked how she managed to do renovation for a whole year without her parents finding out, she smiled and said it was a fight that needed all her wits and courage. While reminiscing about the past and having a few drinks together with her family, Selina would cuddle with her parents and ask them jokingly, “Remember how you guys treated me when I was little?” Through taking trips down memory lane together, they strengthened their familial bond and built more trust. A lot of people may wonder, how do we get along with our family without producing conflicts? With tenderness in her eyes, Selina said that her relationship with her parents went through some misunderstandings and fights too. And yet, she believed that all the conflict really stemmed from love. As for how exactly did she overcome these conflicts, it had become a lesson she needed to learn. Now, Selina is learning to communicate with her parents through softer and more rational methods. Gradually understanding the duty of family, she realized it’s not about taking her parents to some place far away and fancy, but more about expressing love through constant company and care. Reflecting on her personal growth, Selina is extremely grateful for the love and kindness her parents provided her that made her grow into an adult with strength and warmth.

A Time Traveler

All these years, Selina never limited herself. With “slow” being the new normal in this pandemic, she now has time to explore all the possibilities and fulfill her desire to learn new things. Under her friend’s recommendation, Selina was introduced to camping for the first time. Just like how Rome was not built in one day, she had to start from the basics: building the tent, cooking her own meals, making sure everything is in place. A unique life experience, camping simplified the comfort of nature and gave her a chance to enjoy the purest happiness. As someone who cares a lot about gears, Selina placed much emphasis on the rituals of life and her respect for sports. She believes that being prepared with good equipment is the best way to protect yourself and reduces the chance of getting injured. Speaking of her clothing style, Selina always chooses comfort over restraint because to her, every look documents her mood and her state of the day. She also loves to online shop and browse the looks worn by models to see if it will be a good fit. The funny thing is, whenever Selina is unsure about the size, she would get two sizes. If it’s too big, her sister can have it; and if it’s too small, she would give it to her mom, the perfect way to avoid getting the wrong size.

Self-Love is Key

Towards the end of the interview, we mention how women obtain happiness. Selina emphasized the importance to be bold and to never be afraid to love. Learn to let go of what the world expects and understand what is self-love—that is the key to happiness. Because aren’t we all, in some ways, limited by society’s expectations? She reminded us to never forget the power of the mind. Ideas and solutions can be created by humans, so are the ability to self-heal and prioritize yourself. It is easy to get bored with life, which was why Selina decided to turn to books for something more interesting. Smiling, she teased that maybe someday she will actually turn her adventurous journey of life into an actual book. As for the future, she aspires to keep herself busy because this is the best era to be in a world so big and so overflown with opportunities and potential. Continuing to improve herself, Selina is excited to start her new chapter for the next stages of life and career.

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