TRANSLATION | Eugenia Yang
In this age of complex beauty standards, her silhouette is like a pleasing scenery. An elegant socialite, she is affecting the women around her with her own meaning of life.
當你直抵命運的深度，一切的語言都將向你敞開，在化妝間一邊妝髮，一邊接受訪談的關穎來說，「命」與「運」的組合，讓人生保有信念感，她深信努力依然能夠去改變現有的不滿。去年疫情讓她萌生了開啟拍攝 Tik Tok的想法，透過整理衣櫃，將不適合的衣服淘汰掉，「斷捨離」成為她現階段對生活的關鍵詞。訪談近末，說起如何去定義「美」，關穎認為重塑女性的思考，每一個人生階段的流動出的自信美，女性力量的詮釋，看到自己的感知才是更為重要的事情。拍攝期間，她抱著小孩從容自若的狀態，恰恰是當下她最好的呈現。
A Heartfelt Journey
A lot of people see “age” and “marriage” as a woman’s limitation or even destination. To Terri Kwan, it is more like a brand new life experience. Because it is unknown, it is also full of possibilities. ” I’m actually glad that I was pregnant at what’s considered an advanced maternal age, because I had no regrets in life, I actually quite enjoy it.” To Terri, the process of becoming a mom is a journey of exploring what it means to exist. She enjoys the versatile nature of life and how nothing is simple or permanent. A first-time mom, Terri believes that when it comes to educating kids, what’s the most important is to become a beacon in life when they are lost and to provide the correct values within a safe zone. As for letting go, it is a lesson she is learning at the moment.A mother of three kids, she understands that every kid is different and needs different modes of companionship. Her son, Phi Phi, is clever, playful, and requires a lot of communication. Sometimes when Terri is trying to get them to do their school work, the relationship between her and her kids is affected. Perhaps after understanding more about this world, she understands why mothers need to be so strict, because there is a fine line between staying on path and going astray. “I don’t want my kids to see me as a perfect mom. I want them to see my strengths and weaknesses and learn how to be strong because even adults feel vulnerable from time to time.” Between the lines, I see a mother’s hopes and aspirations for her children and a mother who is trustworthy and responsible.
Tearing off the Labels
Looking back in life, multiple labels represent Terri’s identity—celebrity, socialite, wife, and mother. If you type in “Terri Kwan” in any search engine, you will find the one result that stands out the most: socialite. And perhaps living a fortunate life had become the most suitable footnote for her. But now, Terri is planning on tearing off all the labels that were associated with her. During our interview, she reiterates how grateful she is towards her parents’ support, both financially and spiritually. ” I’m not deliberately trying to be ordinary. But I also enjoy street food, shop online, take the MRT, wear blue-and-white slippers, and feel the amazing experiences in life.”
Even after becoming a mother, Terri still doesn’t limit herself. She enjoys being busy, but also understands the importance of taking breaks. On her social media, we see her posting her weekly outfits, her hanging out with friends, or her three gorgeous kids. Although some say that a mother’s self will disappear after having a child, Terri still enjoys the happiness brought to her by her family and kids.
Speaking of the times when she was misrepresented by the media and entertainment industry, Terri admits that her greatest concern is that it will affect her family. She also talks about how her relationship with her mom used to be a little tense. “Our relationship right now is alright, but to eliminate the barriers between generations is still a lesson I’m learning.” Now that she is a mother, she begins to reflect on how to really live in harmony with her elders and projects it onto her relationship with her daughter as well. Opening up with no difficulty, Terri even reveals how sometimes when the adults are fighting, oddly enough, the kids become the mediator. It’s funny how they are sitting right next to each other, but still requires the kids to be their messenger. Moreover, she jokingly shares how sometimes mothers have to find personal value and a sense of accomplishment through work instead. With Mother’s Day right around the corner, Terri simply wishes for the company of her family. In the wake of the pandemic, she realizes a lot of things. ” I’m not a big holiday person.” To have her plate full when taking care of her three kids, she is more than occupied and has no extra time. To Terri, turning the ordinary into her norm is what matters the most.
Where the Heart Belongs
Once you’ve reached the depth of life, all languages and expressions open up to you. As she gets her hair and makeup done while doing the interview, Terri mentions how, when “life” meets “destiny,” it creates this sense of faith. She strongly believes that as long as she works hard enough, she can fix any sort of dissatisfaction. Last year, due to the rising pandemic, Terri began filming TikTok videos and tidying her wardrobe, eliminating any unsuitable clothes. “Tidying up” is the motto she lives by at this stage of life. Towards the end of our interview, we begin discussing how exactly does one define beauty? To Terri, the most important thing is to reshape our thinking to bring out our inner confidence and express feminine power in accordance to how we feel and how we perceive ourselves. During the photoshoot, the way she is so comfortable with her kids is perhaps the best representation of her. Nowadays, dance and yoga have become a trendy workout choice. Terri believes that besides staying fit, more and more people see working out as an outlet for de-stressing and expressing how they feel. Perhaps Terri had already found her most peaceful and happy state of life—finding the love of her life, having a lovely family, knowing what she’s truly passionate about—and understands that it is all about the power of spirituality and inner strength.