TRANSLATION | Eugenia Yang

「這幾年做慈善最開心的，是看到太多人需要幫助，尤其偏鄉地區資源非常匱乏，能夠盡一點心力，看到他們臉上的笑容，便是我最大的欣慰。」邇來逐漸將生活重心移至慈善參與的曾馨瑩，再再顯露了勿以善小而不為的真諦，冀望這股正能量如蒲公英種子般隨風飄散，靜待陽光明媚時，為世界增添一抹純善美。

慈善願景

前陣子參與永齡慈善教育基金會的「寒冬送暖專案」，與家扶基金會各地的孩童們近距離互動，也為獨居長輩親自送上溫暖棉被，憶起寒風刺骨的那天，曾馨瑩的心頭仍充滿了陣陣暖意。「除了經濟上可以給大家一些幫助，如果時間允許，我希望能到現場去看看，不管是獨居老人或長輩，他們也很需要關懷，進而藉這個機會跟他們聊聊天，傾聽他們的生活瑣事。」笑說老爺爺、老奶奶都很可愛，更特別囑咐抽空回來走走，包覆掌心的真情流露，著實令她感動不已。

關於偏鄉地區的實質援助，亦是曾馨瑩一路以來所致力的方向，如捐贈羽絨外套至花蓮縣三民國中舉重隊，為表達感激之情，孩童們更特意錄製了一段感謝影片，使她心中感觸良多。「之前我們有特別去看棒球比賽，也邀請了南投縣中興國中與文昌國小棒球隊學生，中興國中是我的學弟妹，看到我就一直表示學姊好學姊好，很開心很熱情跟我分享，老師也再三感謝我們，說他們真的都是家庭很困苦，唯有參與這些活動才會讓他們對未來懷抱希望。」

隨著慈善公益趨於年輕化，曾馨瑩認為有不少可著手的層面，但最重要的仍是心意，以自身經濟能力為考量，積少成多也是種善循環，亦或選擇身體力行如社工、義工，任何能幫助別人的事情，皆是好方法。著重「健康、教育、慈善」三大面向的永齡慈善教育基金會，談起來日的特別計畫，曾馨瑩表示先生多年戮力於終結癌症，將癌症變成慢性病為如今最大心願，「當初買 BNT 的關係認識了 BNT 集團，其實他們本來不是做 COVID-19 疫苗，一開始最主要是做癌症疫苗，針對個人客製化，用 DNA 比對、設計專屬疫苗。」更透露 BNT 集團已在台設立辦公室，冀望將技術引進台灣讓更多民眾受惠，便是永齡慈善教育基金會的未來願景。

生命厚度

休憩，是為了行走更長遠的路，亦如旅行予人的意義，適時駐足停留，為生命增添驚喜厚度，而旅行之於曾馨瑩，她坦言是種充電的過程，尤其身處國外的愜意自適，由內而外萌發的喜悅之情，足以重新充飽電迎接下一階段。「今年去日本滑雪很開心，因為我的二兒子 Tiger 跟小女兒 QQ 第一次滑雪，卻表現得很勇敢，而從他們身上看見『勇於挑戰』這件事情我覺得蠻好的，這也是我冀望我孩子擁有的特質。」滑到第三天都捨不得回家，笑答連自己也有些上癮了。

近期讓曾馨瑩備感挑戰的運動則是高爾夫球，變化多端的十八洞如人生起伏，訓練整體協調性之餘，心態上的適性轉換也是一大關鍵，「一開始有興趣是因為沒什麼練習就下場打了，可能運動細胞還不錯，幾乎都擊得到球，第一二次蠻好玩，可是到了第三次就遇到瓶頸，為什麼怎麼打都沒辦法進步？當你覺得越來越難的時候，就會越想挑戰。」骨子裡藏不住的卓越舞者精神，體現於每次的揮桿瞬間，即使受限於狀態、氣候、地形等因素，面對未知的困境與跌宕，她依舊樂此不彼。

伴隨韶光流逝與聰慧積累，現階段對自我所賦予的「責任感」，曾馨瑩表示逐漸將核心聚焦於公益參與，「因為小孩越來越大了，想多花一點時間在公益上，早期主要以贊助為主，這幾年當然更多的身體力行，期待能參與更多不一樣的慈善活動，尤其我很喜歡一些藝文活動，也贊助了很多藝文團體。」若將視角回歸個人，悄悄透露先前曾於紐約與舊金山進修，選擇鑽研時尚行銷，原因也來自她對美的事物帶有極大興趣，「人就是一輩子去選擇自己喜歡的事，學越多越好，吸收很多不一樣的東西，是種很棒的體驗。」

兒女時光

談起吾家兒女初長成，曾馨瑩細數著孩子們可愛貼心的舉動，臉上滿是止不著的笑顏，「每天看到我就會很溫暖地抱我，抱得很緊，彼此一直搶或是全部一起衝上來，我都被壓到說：『拜託你們已經很大了，快喘不過氣！』」總是喜歡把愛字掛在嘴邊，她笑說是受到大女兒的愛意薰陶，每通電話皆要以 Love you 結尾，無形中也影響了兒子與小女兒的情感表達。除了母親一角，曾馨瑩也身兼女兒的最佳傾聽者，「因為老大現在青春期，她會跟我分享很多學校的秘密，當然最小的女兒也會分享，不管對或錯，基本上選擇先傾聽，如果有需要提點的，我會思考一下，再利用比較好的方式溝通。」

尤其面臨青少年的敏感心思，如何維持亦母亦友的良善平衡，為曾馨瑩持續精進自我的育兒智慧。「我覺得家裡三個小孩都蠻好溝通的，也許是因為以前我就非常有原則，平常對小孩很開放，像朋友一樣，但如果真的觸到底線，會變得非常嚴格。」面對三位兒女的爭執解法，她表示通常會先給機會解釋對錯，試著釐清原委並詢問第三者，倘若無法達成雙方共識，方法便只有一起領罰或相互道歉，「兩個人會有爭執通常都不是對方，一個巴掌拍不響，這種情況每個人都要負責任。」藉由 3C 產品或運動的時間控制，是她拿捏有度的管教法則。

簡約日常

近幾年對於時尚的品味挑選，曾馨瑩依舊喜愛簡約中帶點設計感，坦言不喜歡過於複雜，從休閒時裝至首飾腕錶，皆可望見日常百搭的蹤影，如白 K 金自帶摩登自信、黃 K 金散發古典氣息，透過相異的服裝重複搭配，為簡單風格增添一抹新味。

提起家中的珍藏單品，她透露是跟先生結婚留到至今的珠寶，珍藏之餘，也具有未來承襲的意味象徵。當兒女逐漸成長，她笑說不僅衣服能輪流穿，也會給予一些挑選建議，「老大現在幾乎都穿我的衣服，不會特別挑品牌，也有很多 H&M 或是一般網路上買的，好玩的是她很適合穿我的東西，因為很多運動中性款，平常出門或上學都蠻適合，買東西還多一個人分享也不浪費，這是一件很好的事情。」前些天更意外發現兒子也穿上了自己的衣服，體現於衣著上的逗趣傳承，讓人不禁莞爾。

“In recent years, what has made me the happiest when it comes to doing charity work is seeing so many people in need, especially those living in remote areas where resources are lacking. To be able to contribute and see the smiles on their faces is my greatest reassurance,” says Delia Tseng, who has gradually shifted her focus in life to philanthropy. An epitome to never underestimate the power of small acts of kindness, she aspires for this positive energy to spread like dandelion seeds, awaiting for the sun to shine to add a touch of utter purity to the world we are living in. 

Charitable Aspirations 

Having just participated in the Warmth for Winter Project hosted by YongLin Charity Foundation, Tseng had the opportunity to spend quality time with children from different regions through Taiwan Fund for Children and Families and delivered warm blankets to the elderly who live alone. As she recalls that bleak winter day when she met them, her heart is still filled with warmth. “Besides offering financial assistance, if time allows, I also wish to visit them personally. Whether they are a senior living alone or the elderly, they desperately need care. Perhaps I can take this opportunity to have a chat with them and hear their stories.” Smiling, Tseng points out how the grandpas and grandmas were adorable and specially told her to come back and visit often. The genuine affection shown by the ones in need deeply touched her heart. Providing substantial assistance for communities living in remote areas has gradually become a long-term goal Tseng’s working on, something concrete like donating down jackets to Sanmin Junior High School’s weightlifting team in Hualien county. In return, the children recorded a thank-you video to express their gratitude. “I remember we went to watch a baseball game and invited students from Taoyuan Municipal Chung-Hsing Junior High School and Wenchang Elementary School’s baseball team. I used to go to Wenchang so when they saw me, they greeted me with enthusiasm. The teachers there also thanked us repeatedly and told us how they are struggling and only by attending activities like these can they continue to have hope for the future.” As the younger generation are more engaged in charity activities, Tseng believes there are many aspects they can start with, but the most important thing is to have good intentions. By taking one’s financial capability into consideration, small contributions can still generate a positive cycle. Alternatively, they can also choose to physically participate in these activities such as social work or volunteering. With three main focuses—health, education, charity—YongLin strives to find the cure to cancer and turn it into a chronic disease, which is something her husband has been working on tirelessly. “Because of our purchase of the Pfizer–BioNTech vaccine, we got to meet the BNT Group. They didn’t start off by making vaccinations. Initially, they focused on cancer vaccines, which are usually customized according to DNA matching and design.” She further reveals that the BNT Group has already established an office in Taiwan in the hopes of introducing their technology to benefit more people, which is also the mission and future goal of YongLin Charity Foundation. 

Depths of Life

To rest is to prepare for a longer journey ahead. Just like what traveling means to people, only by stopping at the right time can we add depth to life. To Tseng, traveling is her way to recharge. When she is abroad, she is relaxed and comfortable, which allows her to prepare herself and welcome the next stage that follows. “I was very happy to have gone skiing in Japan this year. My son, Tiger, and my youngest daughter, QQ, went skiing for the first time and they were so brave. It was great how they weren’t afraid of challenges, that is a quality I aspire for my kids to have.” They were enjoying their time to the point of not wanting to go home even after three days of skiing. Laughing, she admits that she was also a little addicted to the sport. Another sport that Tseng has recently found challenging is golf, as the ups and downs of the 18 holes are just like the twists and turns in life. Besides maintaining an overall body coordination, the key to golf is also about adapting to different mindsets. “At first I became interested in golf because I was able to make my shot even without much practice. It was quite fun for the first two rounds, but when I played for the third time, I encountered a bottleneck. Why is it so hard to improve no matter how much I play? Once you feel like it’s getting more and more difficult, you want to challenge yourself even more.” It is as if she is unable to hide the spirit of an outstanding dancer in her bones. The same drive is reflected in every swing and the way she continues to enjoy the sport despite the limitations—physical condition, weather, changing terrains—and the unknown challenges that continue to present itself. Through the passage of time and the accumulation of wisdom, at this stage, Tseng has gradually shifted her focus to philanthropy and charity, something that she sees as a responsibility. “With my kids getting older, I want to spend more time on charity. In the past, I was more focused on providing sponsorship, and now, I am more physically involved and attend different charity events. Especially those related to arts and culture, which is something I’ve been supporting for a while.” In terms of her personal engagements, Tseng has previously returned from studying abroad in New York and San Francisco, where she chose to study fashion marketing due to her great interest in beautiful things. “We have a whole life to choose to do what we like. The more we can learn, the better. To be able to absorb different things is a great experience.” 

Quality Time 

Speaking of the growth of the kids, Tseng carefully recounts the cute and thoughtful actions of her young ones with a bright smile on her face. “Whenever they see me, they always give me a tight, warm hug. Sometimes they will run towards me all at once and I’ll be swarmed to the point that I’ll have to tell them, ‘come on, you guys are already too big, I can’t breathe!’’ Always telling them how much she loves them, she chuckles and says she is influenced by her eldest daughter’s show of affection. Somehow, the way her eldest ends every phone call with “love you,” she is effecting her siblings and how they express their emotions. Besides being a mother, Tseng is also her daughters’ best listener. “My eldest is in her adolescence right now, so she often shares a lot of secrets from school. Obviously my youngest shares stories with me as well. Regardless of who’s in the wrong, I choose to listen first. If there is anything that needs to be pointed out or adjusted, I will think about it and try to talk to them in a better way.” To maintain a good balance between being a mother and a friend, especially when facing the sensitive feelings teenagers often have, is something about parenting that she is constantly working on. “I think all three of my children are pretty easy to talk to, maybe it’s because I always set very clear principles. Usually I am very open-minded and treat them like my friends, but when they cross the line, I have to be very strict.” Having three kids almost guarantees that two of them will have arguments. In order to resolve their disputes, she usually starts by giving both parties a chance to explain what happened and tries to get to the bottom of things by asking for a third opinion. If that doesn’t work, the only solution is to punish them together or ask them to apologize to each other. “When two people start fighting, it’s never just one person’s fault. Everyone has to take responsibility in this kind of situation.” Through setting a time limit when it comes to using technology or playing sports, she is able to find a balance to her disciplinary approach.

Simple Days 

In recent years, Tseng still prefers minimalist style with a touch of distinctiveness when it comes to fashion, since she is not a fan of overly complicated designs. From her casual attire to jewelry and watches, her daily outfits reflect her simple but versatile style. By mixing and matching different elements, such as white k gold accessories that exude modern confidence and yellow k gold jewelries emitting a classical vibe, she is able to add a sense of novelty to her effortless looks. When it comes to the most cherished items at home, Tseng reveals that they are the jewelry she has kept since she got married. Besides being a personal treasure, they are also symbols of inheritance. As her kids are growing up, she smiles and says that not only can they start to share clothes, but now she can also give them some suggestions on what to wear. “My eldest now wears my clothes most of the time. She doesn’t really care about the brand and often chooses the ones from H&M or other online stores. What I find interesting is that my clothes fit her pretty well because many of them are gender-neutral and suitable for daily outings and school. It’s great to have someone to share clothes with, this way, we won’t be creating waste. It’s good.” To her surprise, she even found out her son has recently started wearing her clothes too, a playful and amusing testament to their family’s fashion legacy.